It seems like I'm asked daily my due date. I'm very big this time around, probably moreso then I was with HUT, so I guess everyone feels the need to make it their business to ask when I'm due, expecting an answer of "2 weeks" or the likes to come out of my mouth.
On Sunday I entered my third trimester. Therefore, I have nearly 3 months left in this pregnancy.
I fully realize that I was overweight when I got pregnant. I also realized that I'm 5'2" tall and don't have much room to grow, aside from outward. It's also my second pregnancy so by eight weeks pregnant there wasn't much denying that I was having a baby. She popped early, and this bump has grown with a fury ever since.
And, since we all know about our scare in the beginning, I'm happy to gain the biggest belly I need to to ensure that Ellie is nice and healthy inside there.
What baffles me the most about this, is that it's usually women (like 99.9% of the time) that are making these faces of horror and gasping when I tell them how much time I have left. Most of which probably were pregnant at least once in their lives and know what it's like to feel hormonal, tired and large-and-in-charge. So you'd think they'd have a little heart and keep the "ohmygodyouhavethatlongtogoyouarehugeyoupoorthing" comments TO THEMSELVES.
Apparently in my little neck of the woods, this is not so.
So, to the woman who was laughing as the checkout woman at TJ Maxx said "good luck" to me in a condescending tone as I exited, after informing her that I was, in fact, NOT having twins - I hope you were mortified at the "WHAT A BITCH!" that not so quietly came out of my mouth as I busted through the door. Because it is not ok to tell a non-pregnant woman that they are huge, and it's most definitely not ok to tell one of the pregnant persuasion the same thing.
I'm tired of playing nice and just smiling when these people make me feel like shit for how large I am. So, if you come in my path and behave that way from this point forward, prepare for the pregnant woman rath that will hit your ass immediately afterward. Because I fully intend on educating these people on what is NOT ok to say to someone who is expecting.
Probably won't make a difference, but at least I'll walk out with my head held high, instead of sulking in tears in my car afterwards!
Do it! I'm with you. I reached my breaking point yesterday. I'm so sick of the "oh. HUH." remarks and sad looks when I say I'm due in Feb. Yeah, I'm huge. I wasn't overweight before but I've gained 35 lbs in 23 weeks of pregnancy, and that's hard enough to deal with by itself, without their reactions.
ReplyDeleteGOOD FOR YOU and you totally should! I'm always so stunned that I don't respond when people make thoughtless comments to me. I will also vow to let it fly when assholes cross my path!
ReplyDeleteI feel you! I'm 4'11 and so my belly popped early. Just the other day I was at Ross looking at slips, and this bigger lady asked me what size I was, I told her normally I'm a small but I'm 16 weeks pregnant. She started laughing and told me "Oh I'm sorry I thought you were just fat." She must of seen the shock on my face, because she then followed up with "You know F A T. Fat." I didn't know whether to punch her or cry lol. People are ridiculous when it comes to pregnancy. I think you're right. It's better to say something than to stay quiet and secretly die a little inside lol. Anyway you look great pregnant! So glad to hear that the baby is doing well!
ReplyDeletePeople just don't know when to keep their mouth's shut when it comes to talking to pregnant women. You should start mouthing off to people when they comment on your size.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain - I've been told, "Wow, you're huge for that far along," and "Whoa your ankles are super swollen," amongst other things. I too smiled and laughed it off, but it really hurt my feelings. I've decided the next time it happens, I'm going to answer with, "Oh thanks, I'll be sure to put that in my book that I'm writing about what NOT to say to a pregnant woman. I'll be sure to cite you as the source, what's your name again?"
ReplyDeleteYou focus on that sweet baby inside of you - that's what's important!
I hate people sometimes. Why are they so rude!! I experienced the same thing, and I always wanted to come back with a witty comment, but instead I laughed nervously. I hope I can be different next time because comments like those are just not ok.
ReplyDeleteIf it's any consolation, I'm on the other side of the spectrum, where I'm carrying a lot smaller than what is "normal". I'm 29 weeks going on 30, but am barely showing, and I get people commenting ALL the time, asking if I'm sure everything is OK with baby. If I wasn't already worried enough with a first time pregnancy, I have all of these people making me even more worried that something isn't right, even though my OB reassures me every single visit that everything is fine. People need to keep their comments to themselves!
ReplyDeleteI've been getting a lot of "oh you won't make it to your due date."
ReplyDeleteWell, thanks for wishing a premature baby on me. I appreciate it.
I'm finding that I'm having a very hard time controlling my temper and the amount of F bombs that escape from my mouth this pregnancy. I damn near punched a lab tech, and a poor teenage boy at hobby lobby learned the hard way not to shut down your lane when the pregnant woman next in line has been waiting 10 min already. I'm being told that perhaps its the ridiculous amount of estrogen in my bloodstream since this is a little lady, but really? I'm just hurting, exhausted from chasing a toddler, and have lost all patience with stupid people. I say tell them to mind their own damn business, and that you hope when they are huge pregnant no one points out how fat they are!
ReplyDeleteWhat is it with people?!? I got a lot of stupid comments too, but mine were all from men. I'd say that would *almost* earn them a pass, but they all had wives and kids! I think the worst one was when, after indicating that I did NOT have any weird cravings, I was asked "are you sure that's a baby and not just a tumor in there?" Of course, in the moment all I could do was laugh nervously, but once I walked away... Are you kidding me?! Did you really just call my baby a tumor?? Yeah. I think it's time to start telling these people they really are idiots. I hope I have the balls to do it if I'm ever pregnant again! Hang in there!
ReplyDeleteYou tell 'em! Seriously, it's no one's business. People have no tact.
ReplyDeleteDude, yes, my thoughts exactly! In the past couple of weeks, I have gotten, "You look like you're about to pop," "I guess you could go any day now," and "My gosh, do you have two in there?!?!" (the final one in response to my telling them I'm due in February). I truly do not know what's wrong with people. I want to punch them all in the face.
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